Writing to brothers-in-law
Messages for your brother-in-law: 8 examples across 1 occasions
A brother-in-law is a friendship you were assigned by someone else's marriage, and it either takes or it does not.
When it takes, the funny thing to say is that neither of you chose this and it worked out anyway. That is a genuinely warm observation delivered in an acceptably light register.
Humour is the natural mode here; one honest line inside it is what makes the card land.
Pick the occasion
step 01 · nine templates
Every occasion, written for your brother-in-law
The details worth reaching for
Whatever the occasion, these are the specifics that make a message to your brother-in-law sound like it came from someone who was actually paying attention.
- The fact that neither of you picked this and it worked
- A running joke that has outlasted the wedding
- Something he is genuinely good at
- How he is with your side of the family
- A time you were glad he was there
- Something you have in common that nobody predicted
- How he handled a family situation
- A thing you have learned from him
Every stop holds a moment
the path they walk
What goes wrong when people write to brothers-in-law
Only doing the joke
Standard for this relationship and therefore forgettable. One real sentence stands out.
Marriage jokes at your sibling's expense
They usually get repeated back.
Assuming distance is required
Plenty of brothers-in-law become close friends. The card can acknowledge that.
Openings and sign-offs that fit this relationship
Ways to open
- “Neither of us picked this and it worked out…”
- “You are the best thing that happened to this family by accident…”
- “For a man I was assigned…”
- “I would actually choose you at this point…”
- “Something I will deny saying…”
Ways to close
- “Good lad. Happy birthday”
- “Glad you got roped in”
- “Cheers, mate”
- “I will deny all of this”
- “See you at the next family thing”
Common questions
- What should you write to your brother-in-law?
- A brother-in-law is a friendship you were assigned by someone else's marriage, and it either takes or it does not.. The message that lands names one specific thing rather than summarising the relationship.
- What should you avoid writing to your brother-in-law?
- Only doing the joke. Standard for this relationship and therefore forgettable. One real sentence stands out.
- How do you make a message to your brother-in-law sound personal?
- Replace one general phrase with something only you would know - the fact that neither of you picked this and it worked, for instance. That single substitution is what separates a borrowed message from one that sounds like you.
Make it something your brother-in-law opens
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