Writing to grandmothers
Messages for your grandma: 21 examples across 3 occasions
A grandmother usually occupies a specific and unusual position: she was there for a version of the family you are too young to remember, and she treats you with a patience your parents could not always afford.
That gives a card to her two natural directions - the sensory memory of her house, and the recognition that she made a version of the family possible.
Both are stronger when they are specific. The smell of a particular kitchen beats a paragraph about how much she means to everyone.
Pick the occasion
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Every occasion, written for your grandma
The details worth reaching for
Whatever the occasion, these are the specifics that make a message to your grandma sound like it came from someone who was actually paying attention.
- The specific smell, sound or food of her house
- Something she says that the whole family now quotes
- A story she tells that you want recorded
- How she was with you when your parents were stretched
- Something she made by hand that still exists
- A thing she did before you were born that you admire
- The way she treats every visitor
- A piece of her that has shown up in you
Every stop holds a moment
the path they walk
What goes wrong when people write to grandmothers
Writing as though she is fragile
Cards to grandparents can slide into a valedictory tone. Write to the person, in the present, with the same directness you would use for anyone else.
Thanking her only on behalf of the family
"We all love you" is a group statement. Something that happened between the two of you specifically is what she will reread.
Leaving the good story unrecorded
If there is a story she tells, saying that you want to keep it is a gift in itself.
Openings and sign-offs that fit this relationship
Ways to open
- “Your house still smells like…”
- “I have been telling people the story about…”
- “Something you always say…”
- “I did not know until recently that you…”
- “There is a bit of you in how I…”
Ways to close
- “Thank you for all of it”
- “I love you, Grandma”
- “Still my favorite house”
- “Save me a seat”
- “Kiss the dog for me”
Common questions
- What should you write to your grandma?
- A grandmother usually occupies a specific and unusual position: she was there for a version of the family you are too young to remember, and she treats you with a patience your parents could not always afford.. The message that lands names one specific thing rather than summarising the relationship.
- What should you avoid writing to your grandma?
- Writing as though she is fragile. Cards to grandparents can slide into a valedictory tone. Write to the person, in the present, with the same directness you would use for anyone else.
- How do you make a message to your grandma sound personal?
- Replace one general phrase with something only you would know - the specific smell, sound or food of her house, for instance. That single substitution is what separates a borrowed message from one that sounds like you.
Make it something your grandma opens
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