Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving messages for your family: 3 to write or borrow
A thanksgiving message for your family should name one real detail, not offer a general wish. Start with the thing this family does that no other family does and say why it matters. You can send the 3 examples below as written, but replacing one detail with your own memory will make it personal.
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Thanksgiving is explicitly an occasion for gratitude, which means a message that only says happy Thanksgiving has skipped the assignment.
A message to a whole family has to work for several people at once, which is why most of them end up saying nothing in particular.
Thanksgiving is explicitly an occasion for gratitude, which means a message that only says happy Thanksgiving has skipped the assignment.
3 thanksgiving messages for your family
- Warm
Grateful for your whole household this year, which has been a genuinely good influence on ours. Happy Thanksgiving.
- Short
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you. Thinking of you today.
- Heartfelt
This year has been hard and your family has been steady through it. Grateful for you. Happy Thanksgiving.
What actually works in a Thanksgiving message to your family
The structure of the day makes directness natural in a way it is not on other occasions. Use that.
One observation about the household beats a list of names.
Say the specific thing. The structure of the day makes directness natural in a way it is not on other occasions.
Timing and etiquette for a Thanksgiving message to your family
For anyone at a distance from family this year, acknowledging that plainly is kind.
One last letter
the finale
Details only you would know about your family
The thing this family does that no other family does is usually the fastest way in. Swap one general phrase in any message above for one of these and the borrowed line becomes yours - your family will recognize it immediately, which is the entire point.
- The thing this family does that no other family does
- How they handle a crisis as a unit
- What their house is like when everyone is in it
- A tradition they have kept going
- Something they have got through together
- How they treat visitors
- The noise level, the food, the specific texture of the household
- What the family has been like this particular year
What goes wrong when people write to families
Listing everyone by name and saying nothing
A roll call is not a message. One observation about the whole is better than five empty clauses.
Ignoring what kind of year it has been
Families notice when a message pretends a hard year did not happen.
Pure formality
"Wishing you all the best" is a greeting, not a message.
Common questions
- What is the best thanksgiving message for your family?
- Pick one real detail - the thing this family does that no other family does - and build two or three sentences around it. A message to a whole family has to work for several people at once, which is why most of them end up saying nothing in particular, which is why a message that could only have been written to your family outperforms a longer, more polished one that could go to anyone.
- What should you not write to your family?
- Avoid listing everyone by name and saying nothing. A roll call is not a message. One observation about the whole is better than five empty clauses.
- How long should a thanksgiving message be?
- Two or three sentences naming one specific thing you are grateful for about them.
- How do you make a thanksgiving message sound personal rather than copied?
- Change one detail to something only you would know. Take any message here and replace its general noun with how they handle a crisis as a unit. That single substitution is what separates a message that sounds borrowed from one that sounds like you wrote it.
When a Thanksgiving message is not quite enough for your family
For anyone at a distance from family this year, acknowledging it plainly is kind.
BloomQuest takes the same raw material this page has been asking you for - the thing this family does that no other family does, the thing you would never say out loud - and turns it into a small private world your family opens from one link. Your words, their memories, and a finale you write yourself.
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More thanksgiving messages
When a Thanksgiving message is not quite enough for your family
For anyone at a distance from family this year, acknowledging it plainly is kind.