Christmas
Short Christmas wishes for your friend: 12 to choose from
A short Christmas message for your friend should do one thing well: name a single specific detail rather than stacking general wishes. One line that could only be written to them beats three that could go to anyone. Below are 12 to use as they are.
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Christmas Quest
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A short message is not a lazy one. It is a harder writing problem, because there is no room to hide a lack of specificity behind volume.
Christmas cards are written in bulk and everybody knows it, which means the reader can tell within one line whether they have received a message or a distribution.
Friendship is the only close relationship with no formal obligation behind it. Nobody has to keep showing up, which means every year it continues is a choice that was actively made.
Christmas messages are written in bulk, and everybody knows it. The reader can tell within one line whether they are receiving a message or a distribution.
12 Christmas messages for your friend
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Merry Christmas. The year was easier with you in it.
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Merry Christmas. Same table next December?
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Merry Christmas. You made this year better.
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Merry Christmas, friend. See you before the new year.
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Merry Christmas. Thinking of you today.
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Wishing you a quiet, warm Christmas. You deserve one.
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Merry Christmas. Glad the year brought us closer.
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Merry Christmas. Call me when the house goes quiet.
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Merry Christmas. Thank you for the hard conversations.
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Merry Christmas to someone I would pick every time.
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Merry Christmas. Save me a slice of pie.
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Merry Christmas. Next year, more dinners.
What actually works in a Christmas message to your friend
Stacking three general wishes uses the space without saying anything. One concrete line uses less space and says more.
A card that could have been sent in any of the last five years announces itself immediately. One reference to the actual year fixes it.
Naming the choice is what separates a friendship message from a pleasantry.
Reference the year that has actually happened. A Christmas card that could have been sent in any of the last five years announces itself immediately.
Timing and etiquette for a Christmas message to your friend
Cards to families should say something about the household rather than listing every name.
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Details only you would know about your friend
The point at which you stopped being acquaintances is usually the fastest way in. Swap one general phrase in any message above for one of these and the borrowed line becomes yours - your friend will recognize it immediately, which is the entire point.
- The point at which you stopped being acquaintances
- A period when they were reliable and it cost them something
- A joke that has survived far past its expiry date
- Something they are good at that they undersell
- A habit of theirs you have picked up
- The thing you always do together, however small
- A time they told you something you did not want to hear
- How they have changed since you met, and how they have not
What goes wrong when people write to friends
Describing fun instead of loyalty
"We always have a laugh" is true of many people. What distinguishes this friendship is usually something more specific and less flattering to say out loud.
Making it entirely nostalgic
A message made only of old material implies the friendship's best part is behind it. Include something from this year.
Undercutting every sincere line
Friend messages often deflect with a joke immediately after anything true. Let one sincere sentence stand without rescue.
Common questions
- What is the best christmas message for your friend?
- Pick one real detail - the point at which you stopped being acquaintances - and build two or three sentences around it. Friendship is the only close relationship with no formal obligation behind it, which is why a message that could only have been written to your friend outperforms a longer, more polished one that could go to anyone.
- What should you not write to your friend?
- Avoid describing fun instead of loyalty. "We always have a laugh" is true of many people. What distinguishes this friendship is usually something more specific and less flattering to say out loud.
- How long should a christmas message be?
- Two to four sentences, with at least one referring to something that actually happened this year. Seasonal wishes can close it, not carry it.
- How do you make a christmas message sound personal rather than copied?
- Change one detail to something only you would know. Take any message here and replace its general noun with a period when they were reliable and it cost them something. That single substitution is what separates a message that sounds borrowed from one that sounds like you wrote it.
When a Christmas message is not quite enough for your friend
Brevity works when the single sentence could only have been written to this person.
BloomQuest takes the same raw material this page has been asking you for - the point at which you stopped being acquaintances, the thing you would never say out loud - and turns it into a small private world your friend opens from one link. Your words, their memories, and a finale you write yourself.
For a friend you only properly contact once a year, this card is the entire relationship that year.
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Other messages for your friend
More christmas messages
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- Christmas messages for husband
- Christmas wishes for daughter
- Religious christmas wishes for family
- Funny christmas wishes for friend
- Funny christmas wishes for family
- Christmas messages for mom
- Christmas messages for girlfriend
- Christmas wishes for sister
- Christmas messages for grandma
- Christmas messages for couple
- Christmas messages for wife
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When a Christmas message is not quite enough for your friend
Brevity works when the single sentence could only have been written to this person.